Another answer
Mar. 31st, 2006 10:08 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
tylik"I am having an interesting discussion elsejournal about the subjective experience of dating men vs women. I don't find it much different. There are people who agree and disagree. Your opinion? Details? Why?"
I'm tempted to be a brat and ask you to define terms. But I suspect that wouldn't really make this easier to answer.
I can make some statistical generalizations about the men vs. the women I've dated. I've been much more likely to have frivolous flings with guys. I suspect this is mostly because, if you are a geek chick, and are fairly assertive, it is just so easy to find willing geek guys. I've had more male partners, but I've fallen in love with proportionally higher a number of my female partners. (OTOH, considering the sample sizes...)
All of my female partners have been shorter than I. I think less than half of my male partners. I'm pretty sure this is not a preference thing on my part, though -- most women are shorter than me (and I can think of at least one taller than I noticably hot chick...) And many men don't want to date a taller woman (though many that would have problems with that probably shouldn't date me anyways).
Hmm. I could also make some generalizations about communication patterns I've noticed in men vs. women... but while I think there's something to be said for that all, it's not particularly well reflected in the people I've dated. ("Dated". Phooey.)
Physical interactions have been different. Men are generally less likely to be multi-orgasmic, for instance... but then I've dated multi-orgasmic men, and non-orgasmic women, and... well again, not really that well reflected in the people I've dated.
Hmm. I guess I can say that generally the women I've dated haven't pushed to formalize the relationship, whereas many, though not all, of the men have. *shrug*
Is any of this relevant to the subjective experience you mention? People are different. I experience them differently. They don't necessarily cluster well by gender.
I'm tempted to be a brat and ask you to define terms. But I suspect that wouldn't really make this easier to answer.
I can make some statistical generalizations about the men vs. the women I've dated. I've been much more likely to have frivolous flings with guys. I suspect this is mostly because, if you are a geek chick, and are fairly assertive, it is just so easy to find willing geek guys. I've had more male partners, but I've fallen in love with proportionally higher a number of my female partners. (OTOH, considering the sample sizes...)
All of my female partners have been shorter than I. I think less than half of my male partners. I'm pretty sure this is not a preference thing on my part, though -- most women are shorter than me (and I can think of at least one taller than I noticably hot chick...) And many men don't want to date a taller woman (though many that would have problems with that probably shouldn't date me anyways).
Hmm. I could also make some generalizations about communication patterns I've noticed in men vs. women... but while I think there's something to be said for that all, it's not particularly well reflected in the people I've dated. ("Dated". Phooey.)
Physical interactions have been different. Men are generally less likely to be multi-orgasmic, for instance... but then I've dated multi-orgasmic men, and non-orgasmic women, and... well again, not really that well reflected in the people I've dated.
Hmm. I guess I can say that generally the women I've dated haven't pushed to formalize the relationship, whereas many, though not all, of the men have. *shrug*
Is any of this relevant to the subjective experience you mention? People are different. I experience them differently. They don't necessarily cluster well by gender.
