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tylikOh, and just in case any of you had any doubts... I usually don't make a huge deal about all of this, but at the moment it seems important.
I'm bisexual. I'm actually pretty middle of the road bisexual -- I'm about equally like to be attracted to women or men (on a purely carnal level at any given time I might be more inclined towards one than the other, but it evens out over time) and I've had roughly the same number of serious relationships with each. I've slept with more men, but I'm pretty sure that's mostly a matter of availability. (I really hope I've grown out of getting involved with people because I happen to be bored. I've certainly gotten better at not being bored.)
Yes, I'm married. Yes, to a man. And yeah, I have some mixed feelings about the legal marriage bit -- when we were married, it was in those heady days when it looked like gay marriage was becoming legal in Hawaii. We were already moving toward joint home ownership and discussing spawning, and it saved us a bundle on our car insurance... But the fact that my relationship with![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
craigp is sanctioned by the state, but any relationship I had with a woman would not be makes me ill. And I feel more than a little guilty for partaking in something that is denied to so many.
Of course, not that there's much chance of me having a state sanctioned relationship with a woman any time soon even if they do legalize gay marriage. Did I mention we're not monogamous? Really, I'm almost embarrassed to bring it up, because it sounds so much more interesting than is actually the case -- we have some of the most boring love lives of any poly people I know, mostly. (No offense to anyone, it's not that we get involved with boring *people*...) But from time to time we do have romantic involvements with people other than eachother. And if we had more time, we'd probably do so more often. Anyhow, even if gay marriage goes through, I'm guessing that polygamy won't be following for a bit.
Did I mention I'm a member of a religious minority? Again, it's one of those things I almost hesitate to mention because I'm so damned lame about it. I identify as pagan. I've organized community events, and written for the pagan press... but then, I'm barely theist if that, and mostly think it's an awful waste of time and energy to go around believing in random shit, not to mention somewhat disrespectful of the universe to pretend we know more about it than is in fact the case. (OTOH, I think religions are one of humanity's prettier inventions, if among its more perverse.)
And maybe more than any of the above... I'm an outspoken, opinionate bitch. Really, if I ever end up in trouble with my own government, this will most likely be the reason. Or at least a big part of the reason. Can't keep my head down, can't keep my mouth shut. Raised in a fine tradition of political dissent, and it seems that often if I feel like someone is trying to manipulate me through fear, I will end up doing exactly what they don't want me to do out of spite. Even if it's not in my best interest.
Hmmm... I'm probably missing some important bits...
[Edit:] Oh, yeah. I'm pro abortion. I get really tired of so many people being so apologetic about their support of abortion rights, and going on about how everyone would rather that abortion was never necessary... Well, I think there are a number of people who would be better of if they'd decided to have abortions, who didn't. Their choice, still, but I wish I could believe that they were really free to make it either way. Okay, okay, yes, I think that birth control is the better way to go -- I'm entirely against unnecessary medical procedures, if nothing else. And better birth control would be fabulous. People having the wherewithal to make good choices for themselves is almost the definition of fabulous for me, across the boards. And I don't just mean my definition of good, either.
I'm bisexual. I'm actually pretty middle of the road bisexual -- I'm about equally like to be attracted to women or men (on a purely carnal level at any given time I might be more inclined towards one than the other, but it evens out over time) and I've had roughly the same number of serious relationships with each. I've slept with more men, but I'm pretty sure that's mostly a matter of availability. (I really hope I've grown out of getting involved with people because I happen to be bored. I've certainly gotten better at not being bored.)
Yes, I'm married. Yes, to a man. And yeah, I have some mixed feelings about the legal marriage bit -- when we were married, it was in those heady days when it looked like gay marriage was becoming legal in Hawaii. We were already moving toward joint home ownership and discussing spawning, and it saved us a bundle on our car insurance... But the fact that my relationship with
craigp is sanctioned by the state, but any relationship I had with a woman would not be makes me ill. And I feel more than a little guilty for partaking in something that is denied to so many. Of course, not that there's much chance of me having a state sanctioned relationship with a woman any time soon even if they do legalize gay marriage. Did I mention we're not monogamous? Really, I'm almost embarrassed to bring it up, because it sounds so much more interesting than is actually the case -- we have some of the most boring love lives of any poly people I know, mostly. (No offense to anyone, it's not that we get involved with boring *people*...) But from time to time we do have romantic involvements with people other than eachother. And if we had more time, we'd probably do so more often. Anyhow, even if gay marriage goes through, I'm guessing that polygamy won't be following for a bit.
Did I mention I'm a member of a religious minority? Again, it's one of those things I almost hesitate to mention because I'm so damned lame about it. I identify as pagan. I've organized community events, and written for the pagan press... but then, I'm barely theist if that, and mostly think it's an awful waste of time and energy to go around believing in random shit, not to mention somewhat disrespectful of the universe to pretend we know more about it than is in fact the case. (OTOH, I think religions are one of humanity's prettier inventions, if among its more perverse.)
And maybe more than any of the above... I'm an outspoken, opinionate bitch. Really, if I ever end up in trouble with my own government, this will most likely be the reason. Or at least a big part of the reason. Can't keep my head down, can't keep my mouth shut. Raised in a fine tradition of political dissent, and it seems that often if I feel like someone is trying to manipulate me through fear, I will end up doing exactly what they don't want me to do out of spite. Even if it's not in my best interest.
Hmmm... I'm probably missing some important bits...
[Edit:] Oh, yeah. I'm pro abortion. I get really tired of so many people being so apologetic about their support of abortion rights, and going on about how everyone would rather that abortion was never necessary... Well, I think there are a number of people who would be better of if they'd decided to have abortions, who didn't. Their choice, still, but I wish I could believe that they were really free to make it either way. Okay, okay, yes, I think that birth control is the better way to go -- I'm entirely against unnecessary medical procedures, if nothing else. And better birth control would be fabulous. People having the wherewithal to make good choices for themselves is almost the definition of fabulous for me, across the boards. And I don't just mean my definition of good, either.
